Word is out: the average couple has sex just once a week. For years, I've aimed for the supposed national average of two to three times weekly—turns out, that was a myth all along!
Recent research from Wendy confirms it, and as a parent who's juggled family life for years, I'm taking this to heart. I've often chosen between intimate moments with my partner amid growing kids or simply collapsing into bed. Between savoring those 12.5 hours of connection or dragging through the next day exhausted 😉.
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Sound familiar? You hit the sheets thinking it's time for intimacy, only to nod off instantly? With work, childcare, homework, chores, sports, and quality time, who has energy for three sessions weekly while staying awake?
I'm exaggerating a bit—it's improved for us—but the pressure around sex frequency is real. We've all pretended it's two to three times a week, fostering unnecessary guilt. Research shows otherwise, easing that burden.
Picture a birthday gathering with friends at a standing table (never with parents!). After a few drinks, it comes up: “How often do you do it?” “Us? At least three times a week!” That always rattled me. How? Was I failing as a partner? Now I see the truth in those skeptical glances partners exchange.
It's the 'do-they-really?' look. Recognize it?
No need—most don't hit three times. They're just like us: too tired amid life's demands, especially with energy-draining growing children.
With our business, kids aged 7 and 12, a home to maintain, and more, three times isn't realistic—though we'd love it. Thankfully, research affirms it's fine. Sex is personal; mutual happiness matters most.
One finding raises eyebrows: employed women masturbate more. Does it replace partner sex or supplement? Food for thought.
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