We've explored letting go before, including releasing your teenager. Writing this now, I realize I've started holding on again—understandable, but not ideal. Letting go is a skill that requires practice; it doesn't come naturally. But how do you practice something elusive like 'doing nothing' and simply allowing?
As the phrase suggests, letting go means just that: letting. Yet, if you've been conditioned to always act to achieve results, mastering this art brings profound rewards for a better life.
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Throughout life, we face moments requiring release. Some are straightforward, like dropping your child at school for the first time. Both you and your child let go, trusting it's best for their growth. This controlled scenario works because school is mandatory. But other times, like parenting a teen, demand voluntary release—no one's forcing it.
Holding on strains your relationship. Learning to trust, even amid mistakes, fosters growth for both. From our experience, one day brings joy in their independence and connection; the next, fear or frustration. It's all part of the process. True mastery brings peace by releasing attached emotions, applicable to any negative feelings.
Not releasing grips you tightly. Stress from agitation can cause headaches, stomachaches—like our daughter Lotte's school anxiety, resolved only after open talks and letting go.
I once endured work stress from clinging to problems, leading to insomnia, appetite loss, burnout, depression, high blood pressure, or heart issues. These are serious; holding negative emotions worsens everything. Yet, you can learn this skill. Expert Jan Bommerez, author of numerous books, offers a course on letting go.
We're habit-driven creatures. Shifting requires new behaviors to replace old ones—a challenge we all know. Repetition builds habits, enabling release. Jan Bommerez's course provides effective guidance.
I've completed the first three free lessons and gained real insights. One exercise revealed bodily blockages from holding on—a heavy sensation in my heart and stomach for me.
These lessons teach release through awareness and simple breathing anyone can master, restoring energy flow. Try the three free lessons yourself here to see if it resonates.
Releasing the unchangeable brings peace, better sleep, less stress or headaches. You'll enjoy life more, understand others' actions (which reflect them, not you), and react less irritably. Your reactions reveal more about you than you might think 😉.
