The tragic suicides of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and Queen Maxima's sister in recent years remind us that mental illness and suicide can affect anyone, no matter their success or status. These losses also underscore the profound impact on loved ones—partners, children, friends, and family left to grieve. Suicide and mental health challenges touch not just the individual, but everyone in their circle, including family, friends, and colleagues.
Suicide is often linked to depression and alcoholism, but also bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and anxiety disorders. Knowing how to offer support—or what to do when suicidal thoughts are expressed—can feel overwhelming. Drawing from established mental health guidelines, here are five essential steps for friends and family. These can also aid in supporting other mental health struggles, even without immediate suicidal risk.
1. Ask Directly
One common myth is that asking about suicide plants the idea and increases risk. Research proves the opposite: direct questions reduce the likelihood of action and open doors to vital conversations. If you sense a loved one, friend, or colleague is struggling, ask them openly—it shows care and invites help.
2. Prioritize Safety
If harm seems imminent, act fast. Contact 113 Suicide Prevention (0900-0113), available 24/7, for guidance. Remove access to lethal means like large quantities of pills or drugs, and stay with them to disrupt impulsive actions.
3. Be Present
Social support significantly lowers suicidal risk. Offer compassion, empathy, and non-judgmental listening. Reassure them you're there. Note that suicide myths include it being mostly adolescent—risk actually rises with age, affecting all genders, as seen with figures like Bourdain and Spade. Spotting signs early and combating isolation helps prevent crisis and supports broader mental health.
4. Connect to Resources
Suicide is preventable with proper help. For immediate danger, take them to the nearest hospital or urge them to go/call 113 (0900-0113). Otherwise, link them to therapy, medication, or support services. Depression and related disorders respond well to treatment—don't assume it'll pass; facilitate real help.
5. Stay Connected
Ongoing check-ins build resilience. Provide steady, judgment-free support, showing you care through listening and availability. While supporting someone can be draining, your involvement can be lifesaving.
