The news of recent months of the suicides of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and Maxima's sister are tragic reminders that mental illness and suicide can affect anyone, regardless of income or success. In addition, it speaks of the enormous impact that suicide has on loved ones – as partners, children, friends and family struggling with their loss. Suicide and mental health affect not only the person struggling with mental illness, but also many people in their lives (family, friends, colleagues).
Suicide is most commonly associated with depression and alcoholism, but is also associated with bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and anxiety disorders. It can be challenging to know the best ways to provide support or even what action to take if he or she expresses suicidal thoughts.
We've listed five steps here for friends and relatives. The steps can also be helpful in providing support for other types of mental illness, even if a person is not suicidal.
Question
One of the most common suicide myths is that talking about or asking someone if they are suicidal puts the idea in their head and therefore increases the likelihood that they will attempt suicide. Research has shown that the opposite is true; asking someone if they are suicidal can decrease the likelihood that they will act on their thoughts. It also provides a valuable opportunity to start a conversation and find the best way to provide help and support to someone who is struggling with mental health issues.
If you suspect or have concerns about a loved one, friend or colleague , ask them.
Keep them safe
If you are concerned that someone is at risk of harming themselves, it is important to take immediate action. If you are not sure how to help or if you want to intervene, please contact 113 Suicide Prevention (0900-0113). They are available 24 hours a day.
Another aspect of safety is to ensure that the person does not have easy access to lethal substances (large amounts of drugs/pills). Removing these items from the household and staying with the person greatly reduces the person's ability to respond to his or her thoughts.
Be there for them
Social support is strongly correlated with a reduction in suicidal thoughts and lowers the risk of a loved one interfering with thoughts and/or plans. Try to assist your loved one with compassion, empathy and curiosity. Tell them you listen without judgment and you want to be there to support them.
Another popular myth is that suicide mostly occurs in adolescents. Although common, the risk of suicide increases with age. Celebrities like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain recall that suicide affects both men and women and people of all ages.
Knowing the warning signs can help you identify loved ones, friends, or acquaintances who may be at risk. Social isolation can also contribute to other mental health issues, so connecting with people who feel isolated can provide valuable support whether or not they are struggling with suicidal thoughts.
Help them connect
Suicide is preventable. There are many resources available to provide support and treatment. If you are concerned that someone may be at immediate risk of harm, take them to the nearest hospital immediately. If you are not with the person at the time, encourage him or her to go to the hospital or call 113 Suicide Prevention (0900-0113).
If the person is not in danger, help them get support. Depression and other mental disorders are very treatable with psychotherapy and medication. Don't assume that depression or suicidal thoughts will pass. Instead, take them seriously and help connect the person with resources, support, and treatment.
Keep in touch
Stay involved and connected with the person. Continue to provide non-judgmental support and communication. Let the person know that you are willing to talk and listen. Again, social support is an important part of suicide prevention and can empower your loved one in how much you care.
It can be taxing and overwhelming to provide support to someone who is struggling with mental health issues and suicidal thoughts. Delving into their mental illness and suicide can be incredibly helpful.
